Still single? This might change how you see dating.
The biggest dating shift happens before you meet someone.
Most singles in their 50s and 60s focus on where to meet people and who they're meeting. That matters. But what if finding love is also about the energy you're bringing into those connections?
I'm a big believer in the Law of Attraction, and I can say, with absolute certainty (because I've experienced it)... when you shift your inner world, your outer world starts to change to match it.
The Law of Attraction
The Law of Attraction is the belief that what you focus on, and how you feel about it, shapes what shows up in your life.
This is the first post in a three-part series on using the Law of Attraction in dating. Part 1 is about the language you use when you talk about dating. Part 2 will cover your beliefs, and Part 3 the actions you take.
It starts with the words you use
Your words influence your thoughts. Your thoughts influence your energy. And your energy influences how you show up in dating.
So pay attention to how you talk about dating, out loud and in your own head.
Are you single because you can't meet anyone great? Or are you single because you haven't stopped "looking"... for that spark, or for someone who checks all the boxes?
Every time you say you're "looking" for a companion, you're telling yourself you don't have it yet. And that keeps you in want.
When you're focused on what you don't have, you attract more wanting of it.
Shift from "looking" to living it
Something as simple as changing the way you speak about dating is a great place to start.
Instead of...
This is what I'm looking for in someone...
Use...
This is what feels aligned to where I'm at in my life...
The key is speaking as if you're already living it. Here are a few examples:
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Instead of saying...
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Try saying...
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I'm looking for someone who loves to travel.
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Traveling with a companion is the best!
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I'm looking for someone kind and honest.
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Kindness and honesty are part of my core values.
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I'm looking for that spark.
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Feeling a connection is really important to me.
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Once you shift your language, that's when you start shifting your energy. And when you shift your energy, that's when it all changes.
Try it this week
Notice every time you say "I'm looking for..." Pause, and reframe it as what feels aligned to where you're at in your life.
Then ask yourself... what's one thing you keep telling yourself about dating that is keeping you in want?
Sometimes the smallest shifts create the biggest changes, and that's what I want for you.
Coming up in Part 2
Next, we'll look at the beliefs you carry about dating, and how they shape who shows up in your life.
Ready to experience dating differently?
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❤️ Megan
I’m a Fairy Love Mother for singles in their 50s and 60s who are trying to navigate this modern dating world. Through my company Throwback Dating I create fun opportunities for singles over 50 to connect organically. No more games, no more dating pressure.
