Is He Peacocking? Here’s What It Really Means (and How to Redirect With Confidence)
Ladies, I’m sure you’ve had this happen before…
You’re on a date and he won’t stop talking about himself.
I know… your first instinct might be to get annoyed or check out. But here’s the truth that most women don’t realize:
If a man is talking a lot, it’s usually because he’s impressed by you… and trying to impress you.
He’s peacocking.
Yep, just like in nature, where the male shows off his feathers, men do their own version too. Especially men over 50 who haven’t dated in a while. They’re excited. Nervous. Hopeful. And sometimes that energy comes out as… talking. A lot.
You’re Not a Passenger - You’re a Co-Creator
Instead of getting frustrated or writing him off, use it as an opportunity to speak your truth.
You’re not a victim in your dating life… you’re a co-creator of the dynamic.
Your words, boundaries, and energy set the tone.
So if he’s unintentionally dominating the conversation, try something like:
“Hey, I’ve really enjoyed learning about you. You’ve done most of the talking tonight… anything you’d like to know about me? I think it’s important we both get to share if we’re hoping to build a real connection.”
This is warm, confident, and invitational… without shaming him or shutting him down.
The Right Man Will Adjust
Emotionally mature men appreciate this kind of communication.
Most of them don’t even realize they’re rambling… they’re just excited to be sitting across the table from an amazing woman like you.
All he needs is a kind nudge from a woman who knows what she wants.
Why This Works
Clear, graceful communication creates emotional safety, and men respond incredibly well to that. You’re not correcting him… you’re guiding the connection.
And honestly? A woman who can do it with such grace is unforgettable.
You Hold the Key
At the end of the day, remember this:
You are the key to your own happiness.
You shape your dating experience with the energy you bring to it.
So speak up.
Lead with confidence and grace.
And watch what happens when you communicate like the woman you’re becoming… not the one you used to be.
If you would love some guidance on becoming that woman who attracts emotionally mature men through her grounded, receptive energy…
❤️ Megan
Megan Wessels
I’m a Wing Woman for single guys over 50 who are trying to navigate this modern dating world. Through my company Throwback Dating I create fun opportunities for singles over 45 to connect organically. No more games, no more dating pressure.
