What Should I Look For When Dating After Divorce?
If you've started thinking about dating again after a divorce, or after losing someone you loved, you've probably asked yourself this question. What should I look for?
Maybe you've even started a mental list. Kind. Financially stable. Similar values. Good with family.
Here's what I tell every Concierge Experience client who brings me that list: it's the wrong question.
Instead of focusing on what to look for in someone else... focus on how you're showing up. Why? Because you can't control who walks through the door. You can only control the energy, the openness, and the presence you bring with you.
So grab a pen and answer these 5 questions for yourself.
1. Am I on offense or defense?
When you're out meeting new people, starting conversations with other singles, or going on a date... are you showing up with open energy, ready for connection? Or are you showing up guarded, creating distance so you feel safe?
2. What are my relationship values?
Not a checklist of traits, but the deeper things, like trust and honesty, open communication, family and relationships. Getting clear on these helps you recognize those qualities when you meet them in someone else.
3. What do I actually want to feel in my next relationship?
Less "what box does he check." More... what does peace, ease, or excitement feel like in my body when I'm with someone.
4. Who do I want to be in my next relationship?
Focusing on the future version of yourself, in a happy partnership, helps you actually create that for yourself.
5. What does "ready" actually feel like for me?
Getting out there and meeting new, like-minded singles is how you learn what ready actually feels like... because you may not know it yet. It takes practice. The more you put yourself out there, the more fun you'll have and the easier it will feel.
Throwback Dating is here for you. We're a community of vetted singles in their 50s and 60s who meet at fun, low-pressure events... live music, pickleball, morning hikes, happy hours. No pressure. Just real conversations with like-minded people.
❤️ Megan
I’m a Dating Concierge for single guys over 50 who are trying to navigate this modern dating world. Through my company Throwback Dating I create fun opportunities for singles over 50 to connect organically. No more games, no more dating pressure.
