If a Man Does This on a Date... He Won’t Hear Back from Her

Dating over 50 isn’t about saying all the right things- it’s about creating the right feeling.
And one of the fastest ways to kill that feeling?

Talking about your ex.

It might seem harmless, but when a man trashes or even over-discusses his ex, it tells a woman a few things:

• He’s not fully healed or ready for a new relationship.

• He might still be carrying resentment.

• He hasn’t taken full responsibility for his part in what happened.

To a woman, that feels unsafe.

Women are drawn to men who create emotional safety… a sense of ease, warmth, and steadiness. It’s what allows her to open up, laugh, and show you the best parts of herself. But when she hears judgment or bitterness about a past relationship, her guard goes up.

That’s not because she’s judging you, it’s because she’s listening for signs of whether she’ll feel emotionally safe with you.

If you’ve done this before, don’t beat yourself up. Many men do it without realizing it. It’s simply a sign that there’s still some healing to do, and that you might need space (or support) to make sense of what happened in your last relationship.

And if she asks you about your ex early on, redirect the conversation by saying something like…

“I’m happy to answer any questions you have because I have nothing to hide, but at this time I’d really like to focus on getting to know you better.”

Women who are secure in themselves don’t need to know all the details about your ex.  They will seem grounded and interested in getting to know you as well. 

❤️ Megan

I’m a Wing Woman for singles over 50 who are trying to navigate this modern dating world.  Through my company Throwback Dating I create fun opportunities for singles over 45 to connect organically.  No more games, no more dating pressure.