How Long Should You Wait Before Asking Her on a Date?: A Throwback Dating Tip
So, you've exchanged numbers with someone you're interested in—now what? How long should you wait before asking her on a date?
If you’re navigating dating over 40, dating over 50, or even dating over 60, timing is everything. Wait too long, and the spark may fizzle. Move too fast, and you might come off as pushy. So what’s the sweet spot?
Step 1: Get on the Phone (or FaceTime) Within 5 Days
Your first priority should be to take the conversation beyond texting. Within 3 to 5 days, aim to get her on a phone call—or even better, a quick FaceTime.
When you talk, ask something simple like:
"Hey, I’d love to hear your voice! When are you free for a quick call?"
A short, real-time conversation creates a stronger connection than back-and-forth texts and sets the stage for a great first date.
Step 2: Lock in a Date Before Ending the Call
If the conversation flows well, don’t hesitate—ask her out before you hang up. Keep it light and casual:
"I’d love to meet you in person. Are you free this weekend for a drink?"
If she’s interested, try to set a specific time before you end the call. If she needs to check her schedule, get a verbal commitment that she’ll send you her availability.
Step 3: Meet Within 5 More Days
Once you've set a plan, don’t delay! Ideally, your first date should happen within 5 days of that call.
Why? Because keeping things moving prevents the connection from going stale. When too much time passes, excitement fades, schedules fill up, and other distractions get in the way.
The Key to Successful Dating Over 40, 50, and 60? Momentum!
A great connection isn’t built over weeks of texting—it’s built through real interactions. The best approach is to:
✅ Get on the phone within 3 to 5 days
✅ Lock in a date before ending the call
✅ Meet within 5 more days
This simple approach keeps the momentum going and increases the likelihood that you’re both still interested when you finally meet.
So if you’ve been holding back, now’s the time—pick up the phone and make it happen!
Happy Dating!
❤️ Megan
